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A casual relationship (also referred to as a friend with benefits or the more vulgar f*ck buddy) is a term used to describe the physical and emotional relationship between two unmarried people who engage in uncommitted sex acts. The intent is generally to relieve sexual frustrations through an alternative to masturbation, and is not intended as a romantic relationship. Both parties are free to date and engage in sex acts with other persons. This type of a relationship effectively gives the people involved an outlet for their sexual urges without the potential stress and time-demands of a committed relationship. Two people may elect to become friends with benefits because they are unwilling to commit to a full-fledged relationship for whatever reason.


The electronic Urban Dictionary is a slang dictionary where people enter in their own definitions of words. For "friends with benefits" a relatively new phrase, there were many responses with number one having the highest rating to number twelve having the lowest. This means more people agreed with number ones definition.

According to the electronic Urban Dictionary, "friends with benefits" is defined as:

1. Two friends who have a sexual realtionship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogomous relationship or any kind of commitment (Anonymous, 2003).

2. A safe relationship, that mimics a real partnership but is void or greatly laking jealousy and other such emotions that come with a serious relationship.

3. A physically involved relationship, where both partners enjoy some comforts of sitting on the fence between serious relationship and simple friendship.

4. Any realtionship that can only be catagorized as being between Friends and Partners, also refered to as More then friends (Holmes, 2005).

5. Friends by day, sex partners by night(Gennady, 2003).

6. two fairly close, or very close friends have the hots for one another. they do have some sort caring for one another, but it is not one of a romantic couple (Ian, 2004).

7. Two friends, a man & a woman, with a casual dating relationship; the benefits can be long,deep,flirting conversations, or jack and jill sessions, or mutual masterbation, or make-out sessions which can include just an exchange of oral sex or penetration sex without commitment (Jake, 2004).

8. This is another word for a Booty Call. Usually 1 person ends up getting hurt (the female) because her feelings become involved. Its rare for the man to get hurt because most men dont confuse feelings with sex like us women do. If you think you can accept this type of relationship thinking it will evolve into something more later, you are wrong! Expect alot of CLOSING TIME calls. That means the bar is closed and he didnt find anything better so he calls you for booty (Kelley, 2004).

9. Two very good friends that share in sexual acts with eachother with no emotional connection or boyfriend-girlfriend label. Just engaging in the act of sex for fun (Eric, 2005).

10. Two friends with a very casual dating relationship. The benefits can be really good, long, flirty conversations; make-out sessions with no commitment; sex without commitment; etc (Lane, 2003).

11. A healthy loveless sexual relationship with one or more partners (James, 2003).

12. When men only want sex and don't want to commit to the woman they're having it with (Jackie, 2004).