i've learned this lesson the hard way, first from my officemate then now at my loved one.. *sigh*
"The greatest harm can result from the best intentions. Kindness and good intentions can be an insidious path to destruction. Sometimes doing what seems right is wrong, and can cause harm. The only counter to it is knowledge, wisdom, forethought, and understanding the First Rule. Even then, that is not always enough."
-Stone of Tears: Chapter 63, page 634