Misato: Hedgehog? You mean those animals with the spiny hair?
Ritsuko: Even though a hedgehog may want to become close with another hedgehog, the closer they get, the more they injure each other with their spines. It's the same with some humans. The reason he seems so withdrawn, is because he's afraid of being hurt.
Misato: Well, he's just, going to have to learn, someday, that part of growing up means, finding a way to interact with others, without distancing pain.
-Episode 3, A Transfer / The Phone That Never Rings, Neon Genesis Evangelion
The hedgehog's dilemma, or sometimes the porcupine dilemma, is an analogy about the challenges of human intimacy. It describes a situation in which a group of hedgehogs all seek to become close to one another in order to share their heat during cold weather. However, once accomplished, they cannot avoid hurting one another with their sharp quills. They must step away from one another. Though they all share the intention of a close reciprocal relationship, this may not occur for reasons which they cannot avoid.
Both Schopenhauer and Freud have used this situation to describe what they feel is the state an individual will find themselves in relation to others. The hedgehog's dilemma suggests that despite goodwill, human intimacy cannot occur without substantial mutual harm, and what results is cautious behavior and weak relationships. With the hedgehog's dilemma one is recommended to use moderation in the affairs with others both because it is in self-interest, and also out of consideration for others. The hedgehog's dilemma is used to justify or explain introversion and isolationism.
Bakit ko na-open ang topic na ito, simple; Ganito nararamdaman ko ngayon sa buhay ko na may kasama pang personality avoidant disorder - kaya siguro parang antisocial ang personality ko ngayon. Kasi para akong hedgehog - sa pagnanais na mapalapit sa isang tao, hindi nagagawa dahil natatakot masaktan. Kelan ko pa kaya makikita ang isang hedgehog na handang ipaglaban ako kahit puro sakit pa ang mararanasan..